Most married couples will go through some sort of misunderstanding, whether the misunderstandings are big or small. Maybe you’re in a tense argument with your spouse about something and it turns into an argument over something else. I have a few suggestions on how to handle these situations.
Question: What did I do wrong? – The first step to handling a misunderstanding is to find out what you did wrong and why.
If the misunderstanding is something major, like lack of intimate relations, tell your spouse what happened so that they will understand the sincerity of your apology. Explain in detail what you did wrong, what you were thinking at the time, and why you made the mistake. There is no sense in arguing about it when you know what you did wrong.
Second, give a sincere explanation of what the main point of the disagreement was. If you gave them a reason or rationale for the misunderstanding, they will more likely trust your explanation.
Listen. To be honest, if you don’t really want to hear their side of the story, make sure you turn off the radio or television. They might not want to hear what you are saying.
It’s important to follow up and listen to each other, even if you don’t have any clear communication with them. It may take some time to get back to a place where they can open up and talk to you openly leaving room for improvement.. Don’t press them on the subject, but do make sure they are willing to talk to you.
The most important thing you can do to help handle a problem like this is to just ignore it. The more time you spend dwelling on the mistake, the worse it will get. If you dwell on the problem, you will lose patience with your spouse and eventually the relationship.
Keep in mind that true apologies will get accepted and will help you move forward in the relationship. In fact, most people will accept an apology, even if they didn’t hear it the first time around.
After you’ve given them an apology, do them a favor and ask if you can make amends on the spot so you might spice your relationship up and act for the better.. This will show that you care and appreciate their honesty.
Couples with a lot of misunderstandings will often have problems with one another for a long time. The worst part is that there is little to do about it. Unfortunately, if you wait until you’re facing a serious conflict, it will be too late.
These are just a few tips on how to handle a misunderstanding. As you can see, you can use them to manage the situation and not be angry, unhappy, or distraught.